An Approach To Control Your Anger by Areej Mohsin

Wrath, ill tamper, rages — whatever you call it, anger is a powerful emotion. Unfortunately, it’s often an unhelpful one.

It’s a natural human experience, sometimes there are viable reasons to get mad like someone said bad to you or hurt by something unjustified. But uncontrolled anger can be exasperate for personal relations and for your health. Fortunately, there are tools you can learn to help you keep your anger in check.

Nature: Anger is an emotional state that varies from mild irritation to intense rage. It can be caused by both external and internal conditions. When you get mad at someone, your heart rate elevates and leads to worse changes in your body. Anger can also lead to stress-related problems including insomnia, digestive problems and headaches. And on top of all, anger can significantly damage your relationships with family, friends and colleagues.

Wherever the feelings come from, you don’t have to let your anger get the better of you.

If you find yourself acting in ways that seem out of control and frightening, you might need help finding better ways to deal with this emotion.
Why are some people more angry than others?

Some people really get angry more easily and more intensely than the average person does. There are also those who don’t show their anger in louder ways but chronically are choleric and grumpy. People who are angered easily have some type of frustration or annoyance. They can’t get things with pace and they’re particularly infuriated if the situation somehow unjust. What makes these people this way? There’s evidence that some children are born irritable and easily angered. Anger is regarded as negative. We are taught that it's all right to express anxiety, depression, or other emotions but not to express anger. As a result we don’t know how to handle it. It's best to find out what it is that triggers your anger, and then to develop strategies to keep those triggers from tipping you over the edge

Strategies: Anger control is important for helping you avoid saying or doing something you may regret. Before anger escalates, you can use specific strategies for controlling anger.

Relax-Simple relaxing ways such as deep breathing, loosen your muscles and use imagery.

Deep Breathing-Shallow breathing is angry breathing. Practice taking slow breaths that you picture coming up from your belly rather than your chest and exhaling from mouth.

Use Imagery-Visualize a relaxing experience from your memory or your imagination.

Progressive Muscles Relaxation-Slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.

Recognize Your Triggers-Give some thought to the things that can mad you. And try out different ways to solve them. If you know you always get angry driving at rush hour, take the bus or try to adjust your schedule to make the trip at a less busy time. You can’t completely eliminate angry feelings. But you can make ways to handle it and make changes to those events that affects you. So you and the people around you become more happier with you.

Better Communications-The first thing to do if you're in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. Listen, too, to what is underlying the anger. For instance, you like a certain amount of freedom and personal space, and your "significant other" wants more connection and closeness. If you need to step away to cool down before continuing the conversation, make a promise to come back later to finish the discussion.

Need Counselling-If  you feel that your anger is really out of control. If it’s having effect on your personality, your relationships and on the other important parts of your life, you might need counselling to handle it. He or she can help you identify problem areas and then develop an action plan for changing them.

“Don’t let your anger lead to hatred, as you will hurt yourself more than you would the other”

-Stephen Richards